Author: Patti Carmalt-Vener

Seek advice and research options on unwanted pregnancy

Dear Patti,  I just found out my girlfriend’s pregnant. At first I felt shock, disbelief and fear that my future was ruined. She’s really frightened and crying all the time. She doesn’t want to tell anybody. I’m scared, too, but I’m not as upset as she is because I have faith we’ll somehow work it out together. I love her and know she loves me. I want to commit to her and take care of her no matter what, but I’m getting tired of her wanting to isolate. We need advice, but she doesn’t want to tell her parents....

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As a great woman once said about fear, ‘the best way out is through’

Two months ago I decided that I want to end my relationship with my boyfriend. I’m positive it’s the right decision but, for some reason, I’m afraid and keep putting it off. He’s not violent or abusive, so I don’t know why I get so scared and back down every time I try to face him and tell him it’s over. — Jen Dear Patti, I’ve been putting off changing jobs for six months. Intellectually, I realize it’s not the best career decision. My present job is comfortable, familiar and easy, but I have an excellent opportunity to work...

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The best present of all is being there for one another

Dear Patti,  My name is Anna Rose. I’m 15 and live with my mom and my older sister Gina Rae, who’s 17. I think maybe I have post-Christmas blues or something. My sister is always saying that our mom cares more about me than she does her and whenever she says that I feel truly bad for her. I don’t believe it’s really true, I just think I’m the baby and our mother is sometimes more affectionate with me. I like it when mom is loving toward me, but I wish she was more like that with my sister as...

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Set fewer achievable resolutions this New Year

Dear Patti,  My teenage daughter, Layla, is very intelligent but a bit of a cynic for someone so young. When I asked her what her New Year’s resolution was going to be for 2018, she disdainfully pointed out that everybody we know—including our whole family—always fails at staying committed to their yearly resolutions. She, therefore, doesn’t see the point in creating goals that are already doomed.  I realize she’s probably half kidding but, seriously, I don’t want Layla to give up on growing and improving before she even tries. How do I support and inspire my daughter to pick a...

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Family helps a father fight off holiday depression

Dear Patti, I’m a very lucky man. I have a beautiful wife and three really great teen children — two daughters and a son. While I try to always carry out my responsibilities both at home and at work and take my role as father and husband very seriously, I sometimes fall in and out of depression. Christmas is my favorite time of year with all its beauty, festivities and traditions. This season, though, I’ve been in a dark, sad mood and can’t seem to escape it. I’m having trouble getting into the holiday spirit and I know at times...

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Upcoming Events

Jan
19
Fri
11:00 am Ines Di Santo Trunk Show and Per... @ Lovella Bridal
Ines Di Santo Trunk Show and Per... @ Lovella Bridal
Jan 19 @ 11:00 am – Jan 20 @ 5:00 pm
Ines Di Santo Trunk Show and Personal Appearance at Lovella Bridal @ Lovella Bridal |  |  |
Be sure to book an appointment with Lovella Bridal for their exclusive trunk show and personal appearance by bridal couture and eveningwear designer, Ines Di Santo. Ines Di Santo’s exquisite Fall 2018 Collection will be[...]
Jan
20
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9:00 am Rose Villa Neighborhood Walking ...
Rose Villa Neighborhood Walking ...
Jan 20 @ 9:00 am – 11:15 am
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Just east of the Caltech area, this district showcases Pasadena’s growing “middle class” between 1913 and 1916, at the end of the craftsman era in residential architecture in Pasadena. This was a popular neighborhood for[...]
11:00 am Zumba Class at Lamanda Park Library @ Pasadena Public Library, Lamanda Park Branch
Zumba Class at Lamanda Park Library @ Pasadena Public Library, Lamanda Park Branch
Jan 20 @ 11:00 am
A zumba class for all skill levels starts at 11 a.m.
1:00 pm Guided Tour, Lecture at Norton S... @ Norton Simon Museum
Guided Tour, Lecture at Norton S... @ Norton Simon Museum
Jan 20 @ 1:00 pm – 5:00 pm
A guided tour visits works reflecting Rembrandt’s rough manner, from 1 to 2 p.m. George Shackelford, Deputy Director of the Kimball Art Museum discusses Degas’s lifelong preoccupation with the human body, particularly the female nude,[...]
4:00 pm Spirit Chorale of Los Angeles Co... @ First United Methodist Church of Pasadena
Spirit Chorale of Los Angeles Co... @ First United Methodist Church of Pasadena
Jan 20 @ 4:00 pm
The Spirit Chorale of Los Angeles performs a concert featuring work of African-American composers, starting at 4 p.m. Free; voluntary offerings are accepted.

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