Patti Carmalt-Vener | Pasadena Weekly https://www.pasadenaweekly.com Greater Pasadena's Free News and Entertainment Weekly Mon, 20 Aug 2018 21:02:09 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.8 https://i1.wp.com/www.pasadenaweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/cropped-jgpw-512-px-copy.png?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 Patti Carmalt-Vener | Pasadena Weekly https://www.pasadenaweekly.com 32 32 136211528 It takes time to find the right couple’s therapist https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/08/16/it-takes-time-to-find-the-right-couples-therapist/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/08/16/it-takes-time-to-find-the-right-couples-therapist/#respond Thu, 16 Aug 2018 13:00:03 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=105626 Dear Patti, I’ve been seeing a therapist by myself for six months and have found it emotionally insightful and very helpful. I knew my therapist worked with couples as well. While my husband, Chris, and I definitely have a solid marriage, there are a few issues that neither of us has been willing to change […]

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Using an ex as the standard for a new partner could lead to problems https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/08/09/using-an-ex-as-the-standard-for-a-new-partner-could-lead-to-problems/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/08/09/using-an-ex-as-the-standard-for-a-new-partner-could-lead-to-problems/#respond Thu, 09 Aug 2018 13:00:02 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=105485 Dear Patti, I feel so much tension. I don’t think I can go to one more wedding this summer. It’s hard enough watching yet another happy couple promising to stay together forever but it seems like I’m the only person in attendance who is single. I know it’s not really true, but I feel like […]

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Single mom is urged to not project her own childhood anger on young daughter accused of bullying https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/08/02/single-mom-is-urged-to-not-project-her-own-childhood-anger-on-young-daughter-accused-of-bullying/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/08/02/single-mom-is-urged-to-not-project-her-own-childhood-anger-on-young-daughter-accused-of-bullying/#respond Thu, 02 Aug 2018 13:00:11 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=105322 Dear Patti, I’m a single mother and even though it can sometimes be difficult, my only child, Mia (10), is the love of my life and well worth any sacrifice. She’s intelligent, energetic and has always been a leader with her peers no matter what problems or issues she has. It devastates me to have […]

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Desire for a family stands in the way of an otherwise perfect match https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/07/26/desire-for-a-family-stands-in-the-way-of-an-otherwise-perfect-match/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/07/26/desire-for-a-family-stands-in-the-way-of-an-otherwise-perfect-match/#respond Thu, 26 Jul 2018 13:00:51 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=105147 Dear Patti, I’ve been dating Oscar for 18 months and am definitely in love with him. I’ve known some fabulous men in my past but none of them have even come close by comparison. His intelligence, openness, and kindness surpass anyone I’ve dated. We connect physically, mentally and emotionally. He’s so easy to talk to […]

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Ugly duckling-turned-beautiful swan has trouble making the emotional transition https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/07/19/ugly-duckling-turned-beautiful-swan-has-trouble-making-the-emotional-transition/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/07/19/ugly-duckling-turned-beautiful-swan-has-trouble-making-the-emotional-transition/#respond Thu, 19 Jul 2018 13:00:01 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=104947 Dear Patti, For as long as I can remember, I was always unattractive. As a young girl I was super-skinny, awkward and gangly with really long arms and legs. I had braces and glasses. Up through junior high I was flat-chested and taller than all the boys. I also had three brothers who’d tease me […]

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Dad pressured to get daughter away from raging mom https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/07/12/dad-pressured-to-get-daughter-away-from-raging-mom/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/07/12/dad-pressured-to-get-daughter-away-from-raging-mom/#respond Thu, 12 Jul 2018 13:00:34 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=104821 Dear Patti, My wife, Diana, can love more intensely than anyone I’ve ever met. She deeply loves me and our daughter, Sophia (6).Diana has four older brothers who constantly bullied her and, accordingly, she held all her feelings in and became very shy. Despite her shyness, I immediately fell in love when we first met […]

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Don’t let past traumas interfere with your life today https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/07/05/dont-let-past-traumas-interfere-with-your-life-today/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/07/05/dont-let-past-traumas-interfere-with-your-life-today/#respond Thu, 05 Jul 2018 13:00:38 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=104599 Dear Patti, My father went to prison when I was 7 (I’m now 15) and I’ve been in group homes ever since. My mother died when I was 2. My fourth and latest foster mother is named Sheri. I’ve been with her for only two months and can already tell she’s the best foster mother […]

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Pursue passions that don’t involve comparisons to others https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/06/28/pursue-passions-that-dont-involve-comparisons-to-others/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/06/28/pursue-passions-that-dont-involve-comparisons-to-others/#respond Thu, 28 Jun 2018 13:00:08 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=104419 Dear Patti, I have a twin brother who is wonderful at everything he does. We’re 15 and already Mason is accomplished at athletics, art, music and academics. Due to his academic abilities, he was put up a year ahead. I also think it was done to give us a chance to grow individually. Whenever I’d […]

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Widower worries about age gap with French lover https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/06/21/widower-worries-about-age-gap-with-french-lover/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/06/21/widower-worries-about-age-gap-with-french-lover/#respond Thu, 21 Jun 2018 13:00:21 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=104313 Dear Patti, I’ve been a widower for two years. My wife of 20 years was a formidable and beautiful woman who accomplished an unbelievable amount in her career with multiple charitable organizations. While we had occasional challenges in our marriage, it was getting better and better. I would’ve been faithful for the rest of my […]

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Rules and respect are needed for two families to live under one roof https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/06/14/rules-and-respect-are-needed-for-two-families-to-live-under-one-roof/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/06/14/rules-and-respect-are-needed-for-two-families-to-live-under-one-roof/#respond Thu, 14 Jun 2018 13:00:45 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=104181 Dear Patti, My husband Dan and I have three grown children. We’ve always felt our oldest son, James, had the roughest childhood of our kids because we were so young and made a lot of mistakes when raising him. Specifically, Dan was way too strict and I was a baby having a baby. Recently James […]

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