Patti Carmalt-Vener | Pasadena Weekly https://www.pasadenaweekly.com Greater Pasadena's Free News and Entertainment Weekly Fri, 18 May 2018 19:45:00 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.6 https://i1.wp.com/www.pasadenaweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/cropped-jgpw-512-px-copy.png?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 Patti Carmalt-Vener | Pasadena Weekly https://www.pasadenaweekly.com 32 32 136211528 Masking empathy for an injured loved one may be a symptom of PTSD caused by other emotional stressors https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/05/10/masking-empathy-for-an-injured-loved-one-may-be-a-symptom-of-ptsd-caused-by-other-emotional-stressors/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/05/10/masking-empathy-for-an-injured-loved-one-may-be-a-symptom-of-ptsd-caused-by-other-emotional-stressors/#respond Thu, 10 May 2018 13:00:59 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=103450 Dear Patti,  Four years ago it was discovered that our 3-year-old daughter had cancer. It was absolutely the most horrifying time of my life. She had to undergo several radiation and chemotherapy treatments. She lost her hair, several pounds and endured severe pain. Kia is now 7, back to her normal appearance and there’s no […]

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improve relationships with kids by integrating communication skills into parenting style https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/04/26/improve-relationships-with-kids-by-integrating-communication-skills-into-parenting-style/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/04/26/improve-relationships-with-kids-by-integrating-communication-skills-into-parenting-style/#respond Thu, 26 Apr 2018 13:00:20 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=103132 Dear Patti,  I have two children — Megan (23) and Brandon (21) — from my first marriage and two children — Emma (8) and Ethan (6) — with my present husband, Gil. Megan and Brandon no longer live at home but frequently visit. Last night while visiting, they were teasingly commenting I had the same […]

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Seek help shifting from feelings of loss to a new sense of self during menopause https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/04/19/seek-help-shifting-from-feelings-of-loss-to-a-new-sense-of-self-during-menopause/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/04/19/seek-help-shifting-from-feelings-of-loss-to-a-new-sense-of-self-during-menopause/#respond Thu, 19 Apr 2018 13:00:53 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=102957 menopause

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Mom’s therapist must be familiar with the values and norms of two cultures https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/04/12/moms-therapist-must-be-familiar-with-the-values-and-norms-of-two-cultures/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/04/12/moms-therapist-must-be-familiar-with-the-values-and-norms-of-two-cultures/#respond Thu, 12 Apr 2018 13:00:17 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=102818 Dear Patti,  I’m Asian-American and my parents came to America from Hong Kong. Although I’m living on my own, I’m still extremely close to my mother. I’m very concerned about her, as it’s clear she has been severely depressed for a long time. She’s been to a doctor who has put her on medication and […]

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Mindfulness is one way to help overcome rage https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/04/05/mindfulness-is-one-way-to-help-overcome-rage/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/04/05/mindfulness-is-one-way-to-help-overcome-rage/#respond Thu, 05 Apr 2018 13:00:31 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=102558 Dear Patti,  I’ve had anger issues ever since I can remember. I was raised by my dad since my mother left us as soon as I was born. I never knew her and always hated her for leaving. I used to get furious at seeing other boys nurtured by their mothers. My first fight was […]

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Twin is upset with recently deceased sister’s husband for already being with another woman https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/03/29/twin-is-upset-with-recently-deceased-sisters-husband-for-already-being-with-another-woman/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/03/29/twin-is-upset-with-recently-deceased-sisters-husband-for-already-being-with-another-woman/#respond Thu, 29 Mar 2018 13:00:25 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=102383 Dear Patti,  It’s a really tough time for me right now. My twin sister, Mary, died four months ago after being in a horrific car accident. Full of pain and almost unrecognizably damaged, she fought to live for three days and then her heart finally gave out. It’s very hard to live without her presence […]

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It’s probably best not to overly pursue reuniting with former lover https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/03/22/its-probably-best-not-to-overly-pursue-reuniting-with-former-lover/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/03/22/its-probably-best-not-to-overly-pursue-reuniting-with-former-lover/#comments Thu, 22 Mar 2018 13:00:53 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=102163 Dear Patti,  Four days ago, Josh — my soulmate and true love of my life—broke up with me. I can’t believe how much pain I’m in. We were similar in so many ways and wanted the same things out of life. It was always easy to be with him. When I first met him, I […]

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Toddlers need firm and consistent boundaries taught through respectful feedback https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/03/15/toddlers-need-firm-and-consistent-boundaries-taught-through-respectful-feedback/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/03/15/toddlers-need-firm-and-consistent-boundaries-taught-through-respectful-feedback/#respond Thu, 15 Mar 2018 13:00:25 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=102044 Dear Patti,  My husband, Jeff, and I have been married for three years and have no children. Jeff’s sister, Bridget, has to care for her ill mother-in-law on weekends and has asked us to take care of her daughter, Harper, who is 21 months old. While we both care deeply for our niece, it’s becoming […]

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Dad’s post-divorce life overshadows relationship with teenage son https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/03/08/dads-post-divorce-life-overshadows-relationship-with-teenage-son/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/03/08/dads-post-divorce-life-overshadows-relationship-with-teenage-son/#respond Thu, 08 Mar 2018 14:00:48 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=101836 Dear Patti,  My name is Noah. I’m 15 and my parents divorced a year and half ago. Although I obviously wanted parents that stayed together and would’ve preferred an intact family, I realized long ago how different my parents are from each other. Actually, I’m surprised they stayed together as long as they did. I […]

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The domestic assaults this person suffers are not due to her histrionic personality disorder https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/03/01/domestic-assaults-person-suffers-not-due-histrionic-personality-disorder/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/03/01/domestic-assaults-person-suffers-not-due-histrionic-personality-disorder/#respond Thu, 01 Mar 2018 14:00:22 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=101616 Dear Patti,  My cousin, Charlotte, is like a sister to me. My mother and my aunt are twins. When they both had daughters less than a year apart, they were thrilled and practically raised us together. I’ve always loved, admired and worried about Charlotte. By the time we reached high school, she was in a […]

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