Patti Carmalt-Vener | Pasadena Weekly https://www.pasadenaweekly.com Greater Pasadena's Free News and Entertainment Weekly Thu, 15 Nov 2018 22:27:19 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.8 https://i1.wp.com/www.pasadenaweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/cropped-jgpw-512-px-copy.png?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 Patti Carmalt-Vener | Pasadena Weekly https://www.pasadenaweekly.com 32 32 136211528 Communicating verbally and nonverbally requires practice https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/11/15/communicating-verbally-and-nonverbally-requires-practice/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/11/15/communicating-verbally-and-nonverbally-requires-practice/#respond Thu, 15 Nov 2018 14:00:34 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=107724 Dear Patti, Recently I’ve been extremely fortunate and have obtained my dream job. I can’t believe it. I’m so happy. The problem is that I was hired to fill a powerful position which requires me to have a high likability quotient and make a good impression when first meeting others. In other words, I will […]

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Only you can decide what to do about your loveless marriage https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/11/08/only-you-can-decide-what-to-do-about-your-loveless-marriage/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/11/08/only-you-can-decide-what-to-do-about-your-loveless-marriage/#respond Thu, 08 Nov 2018 14:00:36 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=107589 Dear Patti, I married my wife 10 years ago. I was only 19, into drugs, always angry and on a downward path. My father deserted my mom and me when I was 10. She tried to raise me, but she was both domineering and neglectful. I know she loved me, but she was more interested […]

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the four steps of getting involved in the lives of grandchildren https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/11/01/the-four-steps-of-getting-involved-in-the-lives-of-grandchildren/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/11/01/the-four-steps-of-getting-involved-in-the-lives-of-grandchildren/#respond Thu, 01 Nov 2018 13:00:21 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=107461 Dear Patti, For the past week I’ve been waking up anxious and worried, and at first I didn’t understand why. My husband and I are both retired. We both enjoy good health, and financial problems are at a minimum. It was just a few mornings ago when I realized that when I’m worrying it’s usually […]

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Adult attachment theory may explain obsession with distant boyfriend https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/10/25/adult-attachment-theory-may-explain-obsession-with-distant-boyfriend/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/10/25/adult-attachment-theory-may-explain-obsession-with-distant-boyfriend/#respond Thu, 25 Oct 2018 13:00:19 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=107295 Dear Patti, I’ve been dating Trevor for seven months and the relationship is very good in many ways. He’s intelligent, handsome, interesting, musical, athletic, artistic and academic. Due to all his pursuits, he has lots of fascinating friends. Unfortunately, he seems to want to spend more time with all his various communities than he does […]

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Having sex less than once a week should concern both partners https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/10/18/having-sex-less-than-once-a-week-should-concern-both-partners/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/10/18/having-sex-less-than-once-a-week-should-concern-both-partners/#respond Thu, 18 Oct 2018 13:00:15 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=107087 Dear Patti, I’m a male nurse in a hospital and work the late shift at a station which periodically can be very quiet. This sometimes leaves the nurses time to talk among themselves and it can get quite personal. A common theme is whether or not they are having frequent sex with their partners. Some […]

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A simple behavior change could improve marriage https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/10/11/a-simple-behavior-change-could-improve-marriage/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/10/11/a-simple-behavior-change-could-improve-marriage/#respond Thu, 11 Oct 2018 13:00:27 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=106868 Dear Patti, My wife Kara and I have been married for 10 years. Although it’s been a good life, it has also been lonely and empty. I work long hours to support our family. We have three children, and Kara works part-time from home and takes care of the kids. She focuses most of her […]

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Are differing political opinions a way of conveying repressed or unresolved emotions? https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/10/04/are-differing-political-opinions-a-way-of-conveying-repressed-or-unresolved-emotions/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/10/04/are-differing-political-opinions-a-way-of-conveying-repressed-or-unresolved-emotions/#respond Thu, 04 Oct 2018 13:00:33 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=106700 Dear Patti, The topic of President Trump comes up frequently when I’m with my son, Jason. It may seem like a little thing, but it isn’t. Jason and I have been on opposite ends of the political spectrum for a long time, but mostly we’ve both just accepted it. Whenever the subject of Trump comes […]

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Be patient and vigilant with friend who’s lost a child https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/09/20/be-patient-and-vigilant-with-friend-whos-lost-a-child/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/09/20/be-patient-and-vigilant-with-friend-whos-lost-a-child/#respond Thu, 20 Sep 2018 13:00:23 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=106369 Dear Patti, This year I met a wonderful woman, Lynn, who is a dog trainer and lives in my neighborhood. I’m an athletic trainer and we’ve been trading services. It’s been great fun. We also have been taking walks together with our dogs, playing tennis and have started to become good, genuine friends. Three weeks […]

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Start out slowly in heating up a sex life grown cold https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/09/13/start-out-slowly-in-heating-up-a-sex-life-grown-cold/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/09/13/start-out-slowly-in-heating-up-a-sex-life-grown-cold/#respond Thu, 13 Sep 2018 13:00:09 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=106188 Dear Patti, For a while now there has been a lot of stress on our marriage due to a death in the family and my husband getting laid off from his job. I guess these problems as well as other everyday family issues just got away from us and, over time, my husband and I […]

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Turn your inner voice from punitive to loving in the fight against depression https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/09/06/turn-your-inner-voice-from-punitive-to-loving-in-the-fight-against-depression/ https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/2018/09/06/turn-your-inner-voice-from-punitive-to-loving-in-the-fight-against-depression/#respond Thu, 06 Sep 2018 13:00:26 +0000 https://www.pasadenaweekly.com/?p=106025 Dear Patti, As an only child, I had a difficult time growing up and often felt lonely. Although I knew my parents dearly loved me, my father had serious health problems, which often prevented my mother from being able to spend much time with me. We lost my dad seven years ago, which was unbelievably […]

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