Dear Patti, I just found out my girlfriend’s pregnant. At first I felt shock, disbelief and fear that my future was ruined. She’s really frightened and crying all the time. She doesn’t want to tell anybody. I’m scared, too, but I’m not as upset as she is because I have faith we’ll somehow work it out together. I love her and know she loves me. I want to commit to her and take care of her no matter what, but I’m getting tired of her wanting to isolate. We need advice, but she doesn’t want to tell her parents....Read More
Author: Patti Carmalt-Vener
Two months ago I decided that I want to end my relationship with my boyfriend. I’m positive it’s the right decision but, for some reason, I’m afraid and keep putting it off. He’s not violent or abusive, so I don’t know why I get so scared and back down every time I try to face him and tell him it’s over. — Jen Dear Patti, I’ve been putting off changing jobs for six months. Intellectually, I realize it’s not the best career decision. My present job is comfortable, familiar and easy, but I have an excellent opportunity to work...Read More
Dear Patti, My name is Anna Rose. I’m 15 and live with my mom and my older sister Gina Rae, who’s 17. I think maybe I have post-Christmas blues or something. My sister is always saying that our mom cares more about me than she does her and whenever she says that I feel truly bad for her. I don’t believe it’s really true, I just think I’m the baby and our mother is sometimes more affectionate with me. I like it when mom is loving toward me, but I wish she was more like that with my sister as...Read More
Dear Patti, My teenage daughter, Layla, is very intelligent but a bit of a cynic for someone so young. When I asked her what her New Year’s resolution was going to be for 2018, she disdainfully pointed out that everybody we know—including our whole family—always fails at staying committed to their yearly resolutions. She, therefore, doesn’t see the point in creating goals that are already doomed. I realize she’s probably half kidding but, seriously, I don’t want Layla to give up on growing and improving before she even tries. How do I support and inspire my daughter to pick a...Read More
Dear Patti, I’m a very lucky man. I have a beautiful wife and three really great teen children — two daughters and a son. While I try to always carry out my responsibilities both at home and at work and take my role as father and husband very seriously, I sometimes fall in and out of depression. Christmas is my favorite time of year with all its beauty, festivities and traditions. This season, though, I’ve been in a dark, sad mood and can’t seem to escape it. I’m having trouble getting into the holiday spirit and I know at times...Read More
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