Author: Patti Carmalt-Vener

Seek advice and research options on unwanted pregnancy

Dear Patti,  I just found out my girlfriend’s pregnant. At first I felt shock, disbelief and fear that my future was ruined. She’s really frightened and crying all the time. She doesn’t want to tell anybody. I’m scared, too, but I’m not as upset as she is because I have faith we’ll somehow work it out together. I love her and know she loves me. I want to commit to her and take care of her no matter what, but I’m getting tired of her wanting to isolate. We need advice, but she doesn’t want to tell her parents....

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As a great woman once said about fear, ‘the best way out is through’

Two months ago I decided that I want to end my relationship with my boyfriend. I’m positive it’s the right decision but, for some reason, I’m afraid and keep putting it off. He’s not violent or abusive, so I don’t know why I get so scared and back down every time I try to face him and tell him it’s over. — Jen Dear Patti, I’ve been putting off changing jobs for six months. Intellectually, I realize it’s not the best career decision. My present job is comfortable, familiar and easy, but I have an excellent opportunity to work...

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The best present of all is being there for one another

Dear Patti,  My name is Anna Rose. I’m 15 and live with my mom and my older sister Gina Rae, who’s 17. I think maybe I have post-Christmas blues or something. My sister is always saying that our mom cares more about me than she does her and whenever she says that I feel truly bad for her. I don’t believe it’s really true, I just think I’m the baby and our mother is sometimes more affectionate with me. I like it when mom is loving toward me, but I wish she was more like that with my sister as...

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Set fewer achievable resolutions this New Year

Dear Patti,  My teenage daughter, Layla, is very intelligent but a bit of a cynic for someone so young. When I asked her what her New Year’s resolution was going to be for 2018, she disdainfully pointed out that everybody we know—including our whole family—always fails at staying committed to their yearly resolutions. She, therefore, doesn’t see the point in creating goals that are already doomed.  I realize she’s probably half kidding but, seriously, I don’t want Layla to give up on growing and improving before she even tries. How do I support and inspire my daughter to pick a...

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Family helps a father fight off holiday depression

Dear Patti, I’m a very lucky man. I have a beautiful wife and three really great teen children — two daughters and a son. While I try to always carry out my responsibilities both at home and at work and take my role as father and husband very seriously, I sometimes fall in and out of depression. Christmas is my favorite time of year with all its beauty, festivities and traditions. This season, though, I’ve been in a dark, sad mood and can’t seem to escape it. I’m having trouble getting into the holiday spirit and I know at times...

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all-day Barbara Morrison’s I Wanna Be Loved @ Pasadena City College, Sexton Hall
Barbara Morrison’s I Wanna Be Loved @ Pasadena City College, Sexton Hall
Feb 24 all-day
Barbara Morrison's I Wanna Be Loved @ Pasadena City College, Sexton Hall |  |  |
Award-winning Jazz and Blues Musical “I Wanna Be Loved,” the story of Dinah Washington, Queen of the Blues, starring three-time Grammy-Nominee vocalist and two-time NAACP Theatre Award Winner Barbara Morrison as Dinah Washington. With an[...]
1:00 pm Guided Tour, Teen Arts Academy a... @ Norton Simon Museum
Guided Tour, Teen Arts Academy a... @ Norton Simon Museum
Feb 24 @ 1:00 pm – 4:00 pm
A guided tour visits works of bronze sculpture from ancient India to the 20th century, from 1 to 2 p.m. The Teen Arts Academy invites kids to join artist Michelle Antonisse to explore Rembrandt’s “Self[...]
4:00 pm Readings at Vroman’s @ Vroman's Bookstore
Readings at Vroman’s @ Vroman's Bookstore
Feb 24 @ 4:00 pm
The UC Irvine MFA Reading Series showcases the work of first and second-year fiction and poetry students, poet Lauren Swift and fiction writers Sarah Beth Rhyther, Gareth Seigel and Lara Fitzjarrald at 4 p.m.
7:00 pm Alex Theatre Fundraiser @ PIRCH Glendale
Alex Theatre Fundraiser @ PIRCH Glendale
Feb 24 @ 7:00 pm – 10:00 pm
The Illuminate Dinner fundraiser benefits and celebrates the Alex Theatre art deco neon tower and marquee, featuring food by a guest chef and specialty wines, plus a wine auction, from 7 to 10 p.m. Tickets[...]
8:00 pm Los Angeles Chamber Orchestra Co... @ Matt Denny's Ale House
Los Angeles Chamber Orchestra Co... @ Matt Denny's Ale House
Feb 24 @ 8:00 pm
The orchestra presents “Regal Classics,” performing works by Britten, Haydn and Ellen Reid, starting at 8 p.m. Douglas Boyd conducts. Featured soloist is Toby Spence, tenor. Tickets are $27 and up.

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